When issues of privacy in marriage arise, you should always have a second thought about your partner’s well being before yours; and as well find a way to balance your needs.
Think of it this way: if you force your partner out of their private life, does that not promote secrecy in a relationship? While having the mindset to satisfy yourself by making their private life an issue, you push them into making some things open while keeping the necessary things secret.
1. Used to privacy: Is your spouse used to a private life? This can be determined at the initial stage of a relationship. This is where most couples make the mistakes, as they fail to take their time to know their partner while courting. Your partner’s personal life should be part of you. It may not be so important while dating, but should be important while in courtship as you advance the relationship into marriage.
2. Can you be totally open?: Being open-minded is good in marriage and makes relationships healthy. However, the question of being totally open in a relationship remains a thing that most couples cannot guarantee.
In life, there are some things we keep private to ourselves, which sometimes become a secret in the long run. These things we keep to ourselves in one way or the other become part of our life that we do not wish to share with others; sometimes even with our spouse.
We might think we cannot ever keep things from our partner not until some issues arise then we will realise the importance of having some sort of privacy in our lives.
Keeping things to yourself and not willing to share some personal information with others is a sign of living a private life. Privacy can go as far as becoming a secret, as long as it keeps piling up. However, having a private life is not wrong but making such privacy become a secret is.
3. Individual differences: Do you think your partner can do the same? Just because you think you can do without privacy does not mean every one can. It is true that you are married to each other, but that does not mean you are the same.
Privacy cannot be easily taken away from some people who are addicted to such lifestyle, and in some way you cannot blame them for this kind of lifestyle; especially people who have lived most of their lives indoors due to up-bringing. It will be a very difficult task to change such a person’s personality or lifestyle as many of them feel there is nothing wrong with it.
4. Do away with privacy: Can you do without privacy? This question is subjective, as it does have to do with individual way of life rather than a general agreement. That you can do without privacy does not mean your spouse can do the same in marriage.